Looking for Your Soulmate? Here’s How…
In my coaching practice, I frequently address the themes of relationships and love. Two common questions I encounter are, “How do I find the right person?” and “How can I be sure I’ve found the one?” I believe the love story of Jessica and me, shared in my first book, has inspired many to adopt a fresh perspective on the idea of soulmates.
Soulmates in Love
Let’s begin with the first question. How to find him/her/them. There is a quick answer, that I believe to be simple and effective. That is to stop looking. Do not actively seek someone. However, you must let it be known by anyone and everyone (including the universal collective) that you are available and open to it. There is a tremendous difference in those two mindsets. Allow me to explain.
Let us say that you are sitting around the table with a friend who's married, and the married friend asks you if there's anyone special in your life? What do you do? The only correct answer is you are open to it. The answer should not be something like, “there is no one right now because everyone I meet is blah, blah, blah.” Since “like” vibrations attract you are now only going to attract more blah, blah, blah. So, if all of the potential significant others you meet are not the right person for you to love, then I hate to say it bluntly, but you don’t love yourself. Like energy attracts. This is why most relationship experts will tell you, it is important to love yourself first, to fall in love with another.
How does this happen?
You emit an energy out into the universe/quantum world that you are ready to be in love with the right person if they present themselves to you. How can you emit energy? By thinking about things. You see, thoughts are things, and all things have a vibrational frequency. Then you allow the love you seek to find you. It will find you. I promise you. You are almost essentially manifesting this relationship.
Assuming you are meditating, during your daily meditation, tell the universe you are ready to be in love with the right person. One who is a match for you and send them to me now! As with any good manifestation you must take some action to set the wheels in motion in order to make it happen. I have discussed manifestation followed by taking action, many times in my books.
For example, begin with your daily meditation as you normally would. At the end of it tell the universe what you want. Make sure it is in the affirmative tense. “I want to be in a loving relationship with the right person for me.” If you have read anything I have written about manifestation you know how important it is to “say” or to “think” correctly. You should not say, I want to be in a loving relationship with the perfect person, because that falls under being an unbelievable statement. Choose your wording wisely. Something that is unbelievable to you, cannot be manifested. Since there is no such thing as a perfect person, deep down inside, you know this is impossible and so you are wasting time. Once you have your wording down, then use it daily.
The next step is to take some form of action that is related to getting what you want. It can't be all meditation and manifestation and then no action. There must be some action attached. Go to a place where you might run into someone you may like, especially to a place where you enjoy doing some activity that you both may enjoy.
Hopefully for your sake that's not a bar. When was the last time a happily married couple told you they met in a bar? If you really want to find the right person to spend your life with, do you think you should do this when one or both of you are impaired, pouring a concoction of negative energy into your body? Think about it? The most important decision in your life is going to be made after a couple of drinks. You wouldn’t buy a house or a car in that state of mind, but some are willing to try to find the person they are looking to spend the rest of their natural lives with, and possibly even raise children with. In many states in the USA, if you sign a contract of any kind, after having a drink, that contract is null and void. Why do suppose that is a law?
What action should you take?
Go to places to interact with people where this love can find you. Not the other way around. Remember you are not looking anymore; you are open to it. Take a class in something you are interested in. Do things recreationally that you enjoy. This way when you meet, you will have common interests instantly. Take a yoga class or go to a gym, go to a museum, a play, a library, a night class on anything, or a charity event. I am sure you have things you like to do even if you don’t like my suggestions. There are millions of other things out there.
What is actually happening here is you enter a room filled with many people, carrying the energy of, “I am ready and available to fall in love with the right person for me.” Your human body and mind will radiate this throughout the event, where potential candidates are present. Let the quantum field carry that energy around the room and tap every human on the shoulder. Then wait for it to present itself. When you notice a person who heightens that feeling, that one has real potential. Have patience, this takes time and likely more than one attempt. The same as any other manifestation.
In a future article we will answer the other question, how to know if you have found the right person. Thank you for reading.
If you would like to learn my meditation for manifestation it is in my second book "You Are Still Alive, Now Act Like It"
